East Hero 1 MF.jpg

IN-PERSON IN CHICAGO & EVANSTON

TELEHEALTH IN ILLINOIS, INDIANA, IOWA, and TEXAS

Relationships

“we didn’t used to be like this.”

“i am afraid we cannot overcome our challenges.”

“i know i need changes but i can’t seem to take the step.”

Sound familiar?

I see you.

For so many of us, the relationships we have in the present moment and in the past can define the fulfillment or isolation we are currently experiencing. We first starting forming relationships the moment we enter this world, and as we grow and develop, the safety in these relationships have a significant impact on our life journey.

When any critical relationship in our life is strained, it can have significant consequences for our nervous system’s flow. In times when our relationships do not feel fully safe or connected, this can lead to many challenging health outcomes, including increased anxiety or depression, sleep disruptions, increased interpersonal conflict, and ultimately are more reactive system.

My relationship work blends the revolutionary evidence-based model, The Gottman Method, and somatic approaches that will resource your system to be able to withstand the waves that may come in the relationship process. My relationship counseling services are expansive- whether you are looking for couple’s work, need support with non-monogamy relationships, or want to strengthen family relationships (whoever makes up your family), I am here to help.

Identify

perpetual challenges

Approximately 70% of challenges in relationship are perpetual- meaning these challenges are not necessarily solvable. Some examples of these challenges are finances, differences in task management, or distance in shared goals for the future together.

Together, we will explore the current challenges showing up in your relationship in a nonjudgmental way to create a map for our work together.

embrace

the strengths

Oftentimes when folks are considering relationship counseling, the challenges in front of you can feel like a mountain with no clear direction to climb.

It is critical in this work that we do not discount what holds you together and affirm that these strengths resource your relationship.

Bringing our attention to the resources while we navigate the waves of tensions will continue to enhance your connection as you move forward together.

learn

new pathways

Our attachment to caregivers develops in the first two years of life and often follows us into our partnerships.

This may mean that your needs to establish safety is drastically different to your partner or partners. Healing occurs when we learn both what we need to feel safe as well as what our partner or partners need for safety as well.

As we work together, we will explore and practice finding balance in which all partners can have unmet needs met without any individual being left behind.

I’m here to help with:

+ sex & intimacy

+ Grief & loss

+ communication

+ Identity evolution

+ couple’s counseling

+ non-monogamy

+ interpersonal trauma

+ infidelity

If you’re ready to…

01

Identify the underlying causes of your relationship challenges

02

Center the strengths that keep the relationship connected

03

Explore the differences within the relationship that need attention

04

Find solutions to move forward with flow and safety

…then let’s get to work.

because, At the end of the day:

Strengthening your relationships can change everything.

  • I have an expansive perspective regarding Relationship Counseling. Below are some of the types of relationships I have experience supporting:

    • Pre-Marital Counseling

    • Couple's Counseling

    • Non-Monogamy

    • Polyamous Relationships

    • Trauma from Current/Past Relationships

    • Parenting Challenges

    • Parenting LGTBQ+ Youth

  • I am currently trained as a Level 1 Gottman Method Therapist. I am continuing my training with this model and anticipate being certified by 2025.

    In addition, I utilize Somatic Experiencing, an evidence-based model to heal traumatic experiences through body-based tools.

    Some other approaches I may employ in the relationship counseling process:

    • Mindfulness Training

    • DBT skills

    • Motivational Interviewing

    • Relational Approaches

    • Anti-Oppressive Counseling

  • As a relationship counselor, it is my perspective that it is both unethical and unproductive for the clinician to withhold critical information from their partners within this process.

    This means that if you disclose infidelity, interpersonal violence, or other critical actions that will cause deep impact to the counseling process, you will be asked to disclose this to your partners.

    I understand this may be concerning or increase hesitancy with beginning the process, so please reach out if you have any questions about this policy.

frequently asked questions